"Does staying with your in-laws improves your marriage or worsens it? ''



"Does staying with your in-laws improves your marriage or worsens it? '' 

 

 

 Whether it’s a blessing or not, staying with your in-laws

 Does it improve your marriage or make it worse. Everyone has a personal response to this topic.  It’s like asking is fufu palatable or not?

 Those who enjoy eating fufu uts a yes!  and those who don’t like it will say something bad about it.Therefore everyone here has their own answer whether it’s a blessing or not to stay with your in-laws

 Now to begin with, let’s go back to the garden

 

 Even God when he brought Adam and Eve together, his intention was to have continuous fellowship with them but he was a regular visitor to Adam and Eve

 We should understand that the Nuclear family system is very ideal throughout scripture

 When we see parents staying with their children , it means there are issues they want to assist to resolve. 

 Abraham  himself was out of reach to God until he was separated from lots. Isaac had his own family likewise Jacob

 

It’s a beautiful thing to stay with the wife of your youth and make a family together without staying with your family but as I said, there are circumstances which may alter this option Now please note that every parents are naturally partial Especially the mothers. And every parents wants to stand with their children, When there’s an issue, most parents will side with their children because of the affection they have for them

 

 So if you are staying with your in-laws and issues crop up, the normal parents will side with their children emotionally and only few will be objective And neutral

 That’s why in many marriages, after the engagement they  selected counselors from families to stand with the couple in case of any challenge, they don’t take parents but other elderly people who can do the work well

 Also when you are with your in-laws, sometimes they forget that you are also grown up and you are in charge of your own home

 They sometimes see you and talk to you as their little girl or little boy they have know all their lives

 They will begin to tell you how you sucked their breast-and paid your fees and changed your napkin. 

  Oohhh mothers are wonderful

 They will dictate to you sometimes like u were still 16 years

 So the tendency of a woman listening to her mother’s instruction against her husbands instruction is highly possible if the mother is in the house

 

 Sometimes too the in-laws are very helpful especially in these days that both the man and woman are all working and sometimes the children needs help in the absence of parents. Many circumstances may arise which may warrant that your in-laws should be there to help

 That will be for a season It’s not a permanent life. 

 

 Therefore In the case of these I have said, wisdom is highly required for couples to go through such situations when they arise

 But the worse is that no matter how rich your parents are or how much they like you, when you marry, leave their house, If they give you an apartment in their house, rent it out and go rent some somewhere It will afford you the peace money can’t buy. 

 

 It varies with circumstances, situations and application of wisdom when it comes to your in-laws coming to help you with your issues Temporarily. But to marry and stay with your in-laws is a difficult problem you will not be able to solve, The best advice is to leave and get your own privacy and build your home with the culture you both want for your future. Abraham did that, Isaac did that and Jacob did that, you may be in the same area but make sure you are not in the same house with them, It is called privacy. 

 

 One day your mommy  will call you to go and buy her credit whiles you are making love to your wife and you understand that some mothers can do all that, 

 So in the nut shell, scripture advices that a man will leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and they Twain shall be one. Leaving is to cleave and that is to build a culture for the two of you as to how God has determined to use you. 

 

The lord give us wisdom to apply these few words amen.

Kindly drop a comment if you did learn something from the above information. 

           ©✍️ Dammexalynn

 


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Raymond damilare. A - Mar 16, 2020, 4:40 PM - Add Reply

A piece of information to everyone one out there

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Born on the 24th may 1989, Graduated from the University of Nigeria Nsukka, with a bachelor degree in Eeducation, in the year 2016 and completed nysc in the year 2019. Currently a writer and a motivational/ speaker, single and aspiring to go higher places in public spaeaking, a Christian. Hail from Ekiti State. Based in Lagos State. Nigeria 🇳🇬.